So many news flashes about the baby found in the woods along side the road. It is unbelievable that something like that could happen in this beautiful country of ours. It is heart breaking to think of what could have happened instead. My heart bleeds for the mother – what she must have gone through while her baby was missing.
Now, to the other side of the coin. How can we possibly criticize her for leaving the child in the car while she gassed up ? Yes, there are those who do blame her.
I think we have carried the protection of children a little too far – to the extreme. Sure, we, as parents need to be ever watchful – but not to the extent of becoming neurotic. We can’t live in fear of what could happen around the clock. What are the chances of a kidnapping happening while you are standing there ?
I grew up in a fear based environment during WWII and know what kind of atmosphere that created for a child. From the day I was born fear was the predominating factor for all of us – but it was a realistic fear – bombs did fall, fathers were sent to Siberia or the Natzie concentration camps, hand grenades and other war paraphernalia was littering the ground where we played, people (including children) were blown up in our presence, and yes, I lost my father when I was eight never to see him again – but I survived. As did many others. But many more did not. And that is my point – in this world we don’t know what will happen from day to day. And as much as we would like to protect our children from everything bad, from abuse by the nanny, bullying on the playground or school to job or lifestyle discrimination we are unable to do so.
So, I say: Let’s just live our lives to the best of our capabilities, vote for the leades we believe in, let them do their job after they are in office – and most importantly, be good parents and let others do the same. Our standards will not always be the same and that’s o.k.
My precious grand daughter and her husband decided the day they married that she would be a stay at home mom and after thirteen years of marriage they have kept their promise to each other and have raised a daughter they can be proud of and, I am sure, will contribute to this country’s benefit. No, he does not have a six figure income, in fact he has to work two jobs to support them in modest style. They don’t own a home and drive only one car – but – they are both there for their daughter and keep the love and the discipline consistant. Maybe that is the key to the whole thing. Keeping your prioities straight. I heard Dr. Laura once tell a listener on her famous radio show that the listener made her career choice when she decided to have a baby – that was her job for the next eighteen years.
Sorry if I stepped on any one’s toe but sometimes we just need to speak out.